Episode 024 - How To Learn Love and Respect: Illumination Beyond Marriage

Episode 024 - How To Learn Love and Respect: Illumination Beyond Marriage

“As I look back on my marriage to Jackie—56 years, 3 months and 13 days before she went home—I think not so much of light bulb moments, but more of dawning realizations (I seem to be a slow learner)." Emerson and Jonathan discuss a marriage and faith testimony from acclaimed Christian author, Fritz Ridenour, in this week’s episode.

**NOTE** We apologize for the audio quality of this episode due to technical difficulties.  

--Emerson and Jonathan

Episode 023 - Who Does He Think He Is?

Episode 023 - Who Does He Think He Is?

Jesus makes an extraordinary statement in the gospel of John. He says in John 14:9, “He who has seen me has seen the father.” Emerson remembers reading that and thinking, “Who does He think He is? God?” Emerson and Jonathan discuss the implications of this statement for our lives this Christmas season.

Episode 022 - The Spiritual Leadership of a Husband

Episode 022 - The Spiritual Leadership of a Husband

Today's godly woman yearns for her husband to be a spiritual leader. The number one complaint among godly wives IS NOT, "My husband isn't treating me equally."  The broader complaint is, "My husband isn't the spiritual leader." Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of men being spiritual leaders within the home in this week's episode.

Episode 021 - Why Does A Husband Misunderstand His Wife?

Episode 021 - Why Does A Husband Misunderstand His Wife?

Saying husbands and wives can misunderstand each other at times is an understatement. In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss how husbands often misunderstand their wives. They’ll take a look at a powerful testimony from a husband who concluded after 17 years of marriage that his wife was NOT intentionally nagging and nitpicking, but was trying to connect. Their marriage changed when he realized this.  

Episode 020 - If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect?

Episode 020 - If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect?

Emerson recently received the following question: How do you respect a man who has a habit of lying and going against everything the Word says? Emerson and Jonathan discuss how this wife can respond, but also more generally how wives can respond to behavior that isn't respectable. 

Episode 019 - Why Do Good People Suffer?

Episode 019 - Why Do Good People Suffer?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss why bad things happen to good people and take a look at testimonies and examples from individuals who have walked this road. Together, they talk through four conclusions someone might draw about God when they have experienced suffering—God does not exist; God is all-powerful, but not all-loving; God is all loving, but not all-powerful; or God is all-loving and all-powerful.

Episode 018 - Oh The Joy, God Sees Your Every Sacrifice In Your Marriage!

Episode 018 - Oh The Joy, God Sees Your Every Sacrifice In Your Marriage!

Do you ever feel like what you are doing in your marriage isn't worth it? Through the story of the widow's mite, Emerson and Jonathan discuss why everything one does in their marriage matters, immensely so. Join them this week as they explain why nothing is wasted before God, even when it feels like nothing you are doing is effective.

Episode 017 - Why Should You Stop Talking To Your Husband?

Episode 017 - Why Should You Stop Talking To Your Husband?

Wives, would you like to learn a way to motivate your husband and know that he feels close to you in a meaningful way? Husbands, would you like to understand yourself better and why you may not do relationships the same way as your wife? Listen in this week as Emerson and Jonathan discuss how a wife can move towards her husband with less talking, even no talking, through spending shoulder to shoulder time with him.

Episode 016 - How To Respect Your Husband When You Don't

Episode 016 - How To Respect Your Husband When You Don't

In this episode Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of a wife respecting her husband when she doesn't feel respect, or even when he has done things that aren't respectable. They discuss this in the context of one woman's testimony of how she went from not being respectful to respectful. It is a powerful story!

Episode 015 - Six Statements That Inflame a Wife When She’s Already Upset

Episode 015 - Six Statements That Inflame a Wife When She’s Already Upset

This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss six ways that a husband can really hurt his wife and the marital relationship with the things he says during conflict. This can occur when he attacks her feelings, her thinking, her beliefs, her relationships, her self-image, and her willpower.  

Episode 014 - Three Steps To Forgiveness Part 2

Episode 014 - Three Steps To Forgiveness Part 2

In Part 2 of Three Steps To Forgiveness, Emerson and Jonathan conclude the topic of forgiveness, looking to Jesus as the example. Following last week’s topic of sympathizing with the offender, today they discuss the need to relinquish the offense, but to then anticipate that God will do something in your life and marriage.   

 

Episode 013 - Three Steps To Forgiveness Part 1

Episode 013 - Three Steps To Forgiveness Part 1

Emerson and Jonathan discuss three things to do when seeking to forgive someone, following the example of Jesus. In Part 1, excuses that we all have considered or used to not have a forgiving spirit are looked at, as well as the concept of sympathizing with another person to understand why something may have occurred.

Episode 012 - Five Ways To Provoke Your Kids Without Really Trying

Episode 012 - Five Ways To Provoke Your Kids Without Really Trying

In today’s episode, Jonathan and Emerson talk about how easily parents can provoke their children, sometimes intentionally, but often unintentionally through sheer exhaustion and frustration. Together, they discuss five ways that parents provoke or exasperate their children and some things they can do to prevent that.

Episode 011 - The Jesus Way Of Talking

Episode 011 - The Jesus Way Of Talking

A recent social media post had a simple quote from The Language Of Love & Respect, which hundreds of people commented on and shared.  The quote was about the Jesus way of talking within marriage and relationships. Emerson and Jonathan discuss this during today's episode, including how to speak words that are Truthful, Uplifting, Forgiving, Thankful, and Scriptural (T.U.F.T.S.). 

 

Episode 010 - Learning To Love Again

Episode 010 - Learning To Love Again

Emerson and Jonathan deal with a very difficult issue in this week’s podcast. How can a person learn to love again after they have reached the point where they do not believe they are "in love"?  And what does the Bible say about exiting a marriage? The discussion centers around a recent blog that Emerson wrote that in a three month period had over 20,000 views.

Episode 009 - Your Questions And Comments On The Family Cycles

Episode 009 - Your Questions And Comments On The Family Cycles

Emerson and Jonathan review the three cycles of the Love and Respect In The Family Book, discussing conflict, motivation, and some of the incentives for parenting the Love and Respect way.  Additionally, Emerson and Jonathan respond to listener questions and comments about parenting.  

Episode 008 - The Family Rewarded Cycle

Episode 008 - The Family Rewarded Cycle

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the Family Rewarded Cycle, the final cycle from Love and Respect In The Family. When parenting, what ultimately matters is an individual's relationship with God.  Emerson explains how to see and relate to one's children apart from their response or performance, all in the context of an eternal view.

Episode 007 - The Family Energizing Cycle

Episode 007 - The Family Energizing Cycle

In Episode 007 Emerson and Jonathan discuss the Family Energizing Cycle: A parent's love motivates a child's respect and a child's respect motivates a parent's love. Six principles that parents can apply are explored: Giving, Understanding, Instruction, Discipline, Encouragement, and Supplication.

Episode 006 - The Family Crazy Cycle

Episode 006 - The Family Crazy Cycle

Emerson and Jonathan transition from the Love and Respect marriage book to Love and Respect In The Family, a book on parenting that came out in the fall of 2013. This episode focuses on the Family Crazy Cycle: without love children react with disrespect and without respect parents react without love. Emerson also unpacks the definition of love and respect from a biblical perspective as it pertains to parenting. 

Episode 005 - The Three Cycles - Your Questions and Comments

Episode 005 - The Three Cycles - Your Questions and Comments

This week Emerson and Jonathan review the Crazy Cycle, the Energizing Cycle, and the Rewarded Cycle. Positive examples from listeners are discussed in addition to Emerson responding to common questions about the Love and Respect message as well as specific questions and comments from listeners over the past few weeks.