Episode 085 - 3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage

 Episode 085 - 3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage

This three part series is perfect for anyone who is dating or unmarried, but also for anyone who knows someone that is. Additionally, do you have children or plan on having children? This can help you in your conversations with them about marriage. In thinking about his own daughter's upcoming marriage Emerson composed his thoughts on preparing for marriage, which includes being a mature person, looking for a mature person, and being motivated by Christ's mission as a couple. 

Episode 084 - God Joined you together - What Does This Mean?

Episode 084 - God Joined you together - What Does This Mean?

Does God intend to direct our steps to one and only one person that He designed from eternity past to be our soul-mate? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the topic of a soul-mate. Whether you are a person looking to get married or have been married for many years but think you married the wrong person, this episode will provide insight.

Episode 083 - What is the Issue When the Issue Isn’t the Issue?

Episode 083 - What is the Issue When the Issue Isn’t the Issue?

Drawing upon principles of the Crazy Cycle Emerson responds separately to a wife and to a husband about two different issues.  He helps them understand that they need to approach their spouse with love and respect, which is an issue, while still addressing the topic at hand. This episode will help listeners discern what really is the issue when an issue is being discussed.

Episode 082 - Is Your Wife Really Trying To Be Negative and Disrespectful?

Episode 082 - Is Your Wife Really Trying To Be Negative and Disrespectful?

A husband wrote, “My wife and I have been married for almost two years. . . . Our disagreements are centered on her emotional outbursts and my lack of emotion. . . .  I do love the emotion my wife has and I know God has us together to love and respect each other as we seek to glorify him, but I struggle when my wife justifies some behavior as her uncontrollable emotional reaction. I am not looking for something to condemn her with, instead I would like your viewpoint on how one best handles this type of ongoing disagreement.” Emerson responds in this week's episode.

Episode 081 - After An Affair Is Ongoing Contact With the Other Person Ok?

Episode 081 - After An Affair Is Ongoing Contact With the Other Person Ok?

Over the years Emerson has received hundred of emails regarding affairs, often from the betrayed spouse asking what they should do.  Both Emerson and Jonathan have also listened to countless stories of infidelity as they counsel individuals and couples.  Join them this week as they explore a response Emerson wrote to a man who wondered if he was handling things correctly following an affair.  This message is applicable for husband and wife, both the betrayed and the betrayer.  

Episode 080 - What Does Regularly Playing the Lotto Do to the Soul?

Episode 080 - What Does Regularly Playing the Lotto Do to the Soul?

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan discuss a number of issues pertaining to playing the lotto and money.  Here are some of the topics: two types of people who buy lotto tickets; the addicted poor; lovers of money or lovers of God; wandering from the faith; and what are people's true beliefs.

Episode 079 - True or False: What Is Desirable In A Man Is His Kindness?

Episode 079 - True or False: What Is Desirable In A Man Is His Kindness?

Is it true that what is wanted in a person is for this individual to be friendly, generous, and considerate? Yes. Proverbs 19:22 states, "What is desirable in a man is his kindness." Why is this a desirable trait? People know they will respond to a kind individual. Kindness motivates people to act. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the topic of kindness.

Episode 078 - Losing Makes Us a Winner! How To Be Resolute

Episode 078 - Losing Makes Us a Winner! How To Be Resolute

From third grade to eighth grade Emerson was overweight. He wore Husky pants. His legs rubbed together when he ran. His belly hung over the front of his pants. Sometimes people called him “fatty.” He would often cry. The Bible says, "Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness; for bodily discipline is only of little profit, but godliness is profitable for all things, since it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come” (1 Timothy 4:7–8). Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they talk about being resolute in the new year. 

Episode 077 - 9 Ways To Fuel Disagreements Into a Feud

Episode 077 - 9 Ways To Fuel Disagreements Into a Feud

Over time, two people can hurt, frustrate, confuse, and anger the other. She feels that her differing opinion and convictions do not matter to him as much as his own ideas matter. Or, he feels that his differing outlook and beliefs have little importance to her compared to how she feels about her views. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss how individuals begin to feel that their ideas do not matter and that they do not matter on the heels of another disagreement, but how they must guard against the 9 Ways to Fuel Disagreements Into a Feud.

Episode 076 - Three Reasons Some Do Not Have a Filter On Their Words

Episode 076 - Three Reasons Some Do Not Have a Filter On Their Words

Some of us need a filter on our speech when we communicate. When we lack a filter we undermine our effectiveness in communicating with people. With whom we communicate falls into three groups: family and friends, coworkers and neighbors, or acquaintances and strangers. This filter consists of asking three questions before communicating: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss an important topic.

Episode 075 - Are You Offended by the Inoffensive?

Episode 075 - Are You Offended by the Inoffensive?

Though a person appears to be unloving and disrespectful, to the point where I even feel unloved and disrespected, could I have actually misinterpreted the appearance? When I feel offended by another, does that mean the other person is automatically an offensive person, or could I feel offended by something that in fact is inoffensive? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

Episode 074 - When We Address a Man’s Needs - Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion?

Episode 074 - When We Address a Man’s Needs - Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion?

Some feel that when we talk about what is true of most males we are implying this is untrue of women. When some ladies feel this way, they change the focus to the woman. Why? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss a difficult topic following and expanding upon a recent blog. WARNING: this may be difficult for some to hear and we aren't talking about the volume.  

Episode 073 - What’s Wrong With Thinking Another Person Is Right?

Episode 073 - What’s Wrong With Thinking Another Person Is Right?

Do you believe one spouse’s report without ever hearing the other spouse tell their side of the story? Why? Although a question about marriage, listen in as Emerson and Jonathan discuss this question and how the answer is applicable to all walks of life. How most know that we must hear both sides in a court of law, how the Bible teaches us why, and where we read in Proverbs 18:17 and other scriptures, "The first to plead his case seems right, until another comes and examines him." It is a basic truth: when only one person tells their side of the story it seems convincing. However, when another questions and even counters, a different picture emerges. 

Episode 072 - 3 Reasons Some Counselors Are Bad At Marriage Counseling

Episode 072 - 3 Reasons Some Counselors Are Bad At Marriage Counseling

This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss some of the difficulties in finding a good Christian marriage counselor. They discuss how some counselors have a difficult time working with couples because of an individualistic approach, how some counselors have a negative male bias, and how some counselors maintain moral neutrality, plus practical recommendations for dealing with these issues.  Whether for you or someone you know, this episode will be helpful for those in or considering marital counseling.

Episode 071 - Do You Remain Thankful During The Tough Times?

Episode 071 - Do You Remain Thankful During The Tough Times?

Are you thankful in the good times? Are you thankful in the difficult times? The Bible states that it is God's will that we be thankful, no matter the circumstances, although not necessarily for the circumstances. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic during the Thanksgiving season. 

Episode 070 - Why The Deception In Marriage?

Episode 070 - Why The Deception In Marriage?

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss six examples of the hurt the innocent party feels when discovering their husband or wife lies to them: three examples from wives and three from husbands.  Reasons for the lying occurring and what should have been done are discussed. Listeners are encouraged to come up with their own answers, apply to their own relationships and share with others. 

Episode 069 - Are Our Parents To Blame For Our Issues?

Episode 069 - Are Our Parents To Blame For Our Issues?

Many of us look at the things in ourselves that we do not like and at the negative reactions from people we do not like, and we wonder, Do these problems exist in my life because of my parents? If they had been better parents, or had treated me better, then surely I’d be a better person with fewer personal and interpersonal problems, right? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important issue. 

Episode 067 - Parenting God's Way Part 1

Episode 067 - Parenting God's Way Part 1

Hear Emerson speak on the topic of parenting this week.  A powerful two part sermon on why we parent God's way, this topic will be enlightening and freeing to many people.  Whether a parent in crisis, a parent who has it all together right now, a parent with grown children, or someone who is not even a parent yet, this will impact you. 

Episode 066 - Our Marriage Hit Rock Bottom - A Wife’s Story

Episode 066 - Our Marriage Hit Rock Bottom - A Wife’s Story

Listen in this week as Emerson and Jonathan discuss a wife's story about her marriage hitting rock bottom and what she did about it. Here are a few of her words - "We went to counseling, and that did not seem to help. My husband told me he loved me, but wasn’t attracted to me and didn’t feel “in love” with me...I decided to try one of your exercises. I told my husband why I respected him. I remember having to think about it all night."