separation

Episode 096 - Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

Episode 096 - Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

We can feel stupid and wrong in our marriage. When we feel stupid and wrong in the marriage, we can draw conclusions about ourselves that are untrue in the eyes of God and react in ways that won’t remedy the pain, such as believing the lie (s) about ourselves or considering divorce. Our spouse will affect us emotionally but negative words cannot determine who God made us to be. We can begin to realize inner wisdom and the rightness about how we are living, even if a spouse refuses to acknowledge it. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

Episode 095 - What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Episode 095 - What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Are you in or have you come through a marital crisis? You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. There could have been any number of reasons for the crisis. Typically, though, a crisis falls under one or more of what Emerson refers to as the six A’s: adultery, abandonment, abuse, addiction, adversity, and apathy. Your situation may involve something outside of those, but join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic and email Emerson regarding how you are making it through or made it through the crisis at story@loveandrespect.com, including if you are listening to this months or years after it was posted. There is an attached document in the show notes available for download to guide your thinking and email. 

Episode 094 - What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Episode 094 - What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Some people live in fear that as they seek to apply the Love and Respect message their spouse will not respond in like manner, and then when that happens it confirms their fears. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

Episode 081 - After An Affair Is Ongoing Contact With the Other Person Ok?

Episode 081 - After An Affair Is Ongoing Contact With the Other Person Ok?

Over the years Emerson has received hundred of emails regarding affairs, often from the betrayed spouse asking what they should do.  Both Emerson and Jonathan have also listened to countless stories of infidelity as they counsel individuals and couples.  Join them this week as they explore a response Emerson wrote to a man who wondered if he was handling things correctly following an affair.  This message is applicable for husband and wife, both the betrayed and the betrayer.  

Episode 064 - What Did We Know about Marriage as a Six-Year-Old but Forgot as an Adult?

Episode 064 - What Did We Know about Marriage as a Six-Year-Old but Forgot as an Adult?

Have we forgotten what we knew about marriage at age six? In response to a recent video that went viral, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the things we knew as children, such as, mommy and daddy ought to be friendly with each other because all mommies and daddies ought to be friends. What we knew, why things often change, and then three practical ways friendship can enter a marriage again are discussed. 

Episode 060 - How a Wife Won Her Husband - His Testimony

Episode 060 - How a Wife Won Her Husband - His Testimony

Through the testimony of a husband who engaged in online affairs, Emerson and Jonathan discuss and respond to his report that his wife facilitated the reconciliation through her words and behavior. He said, "She showed me respect when I did not deserve it." 

Episode 058 - My Wife is Leaving Me

Episode 058 - My Wife is Leaving Me

Why does it take a crisis of a spouse leaving to awaken a person to their unloving and disrespectful behavior? Emerson and Jonathan attempt to answer this question by looking at a recent testimony from a husband who confessed and awakened. 

Episode 041 - Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage - Part 2

Episode 041 - Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage - Part 2

In Part 2 of this 2-part series, Emerson and Jonathan continue their discussion about the motive, means, and opportunities people use to justify killing their marriage, while forgetting the ways by which to resurrect it. While acknowledging there are justified, biblical reasons for divorce, as well as terrible and difficult situations requiring local, direct, and wise counsel, Emerson and Jonathan take a look at what a couple can do to keep from murdering their marriage.

Episode 040 - Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage Part 1

Episode 040 - Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage Part 1

In Part 1 of this 2-part podcast series, Emerson and Jonathan begin discussing why some people leave their marriage. With motive, means and opportunity, there are many ways to sabotage a marriage and get it to end, but what are the biblical reasons for separation and divorce? Listen in to find out. 

Episode 038 - Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Look Again!

Episode 038 - Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Look Again!

In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan review and discuss a recent email exchange that Emerson had with a deployed soldier who believed his wife was going to divorce him. They explore what spouses can do in a relationship when very serious things are implied or stated. This episode will also help those who are trying to figure out what to say and do in response to relationships they know are not doing well.