Episode 105 - Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

Episode 105 - Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan highlight a double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse our young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Stay tuned for Part II of this topic and then the same topic as it applies to men in the coming weeks. 

Episode 104 - What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak at Saddleback Church

Episode 104 - What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak at Saddleback Church

Part II - Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas:

1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

Episode 103 - What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Episode 103 - What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas (this is Part I of II):

1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

Episode 102 - Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

Episode 102 - Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

“God wants you to be happy.” Have you heard this platitude before? Has it perhaps been spoken to you? Maybe you’ve even heard it said in the context of someone being encouraged to divorce their spouse, because “God wants you to be happy.” However, some platitudes, though quite memorable, are not based on biblical truth. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

Episode 101 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II

Episode 101 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week for part 2 of My Response Is My Responsibility. In discussing this challenging but freeing topic they will look at the fact that no one can make a person disobey God, owning one’s responses, letting others off the hook and confronting others.

Episode 100 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I

Episode 100 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I

We possess a God given right to rule our own inner responses. No one can make us hate them. No one can force us to have contempt for them. That’s a choice we make. Others cannot make that decision for us. What brings a person to this place of freedom? How does a person discover their right to rule their inner response? It begins with subscribing to this axiom: My Response is My Responsibility. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

Episode 099 - Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Episode 099 - Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Though God commands the husband to love and a wife to respect, a strange twist might take place. A wife puts on respect for one reason: to get her husband to be loving. A husband puts on love solely to get his wife to respect him. One pastor wrote Emerson and shared his concerns fearing this very thing: that husbands and wives will manipulate each other when applying love and respect based on Ephesians 5:33.  Join Emerson and Jonathan this weeks as they discuss this topic. 

Episode 098 - Why Are Believers Mad At God? Part 2

Episode 098 - Why Are Believers Mad At God? Part 2

Join Emerson and Jonathan in Part 2 of this series as they examine four reasons someone might hate or be mad at God: Cursing when suffering, Hostile when disobeying, Hating when proven guilty, Raging when foolish. Does the Bible teach that people who claim to believe in God can hate God? Jesus said, “He who hates Me hates My Father also” (John 15:23). So according to Jesus, yes, people can hate God the Father. And for those of us who believe Jesus is God’s Son, people can hate the Son of God. The apostle Paul tells us that there will be “haters of God” (Romans 1:30). People who believe in God can hate God. You cannot hate someone you do not believe exists. 

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Episode 097 - Why Are Believers Mad At God? Part I

Episode 097 - Why Are Believers Mad At God? Part I

Does the Bible teach that people who claim to believe in God can hate God? Jesus said, “He who hates Me hates My Father also” (John 15:23). So according to Jesus, yes, people can hate God the Father. And for those of us who believe Jesus is God’s Son, people can hate the Son of God. The apostle Paul tells us that there will be “haters of God” (Romans 1:30). People who believe in God can hate God. You cannot hate someone you do not believe exists. Join Emerson and Jonathan over the next two episodes as they examine four reasons someone might hate God: Cursing when suffering, Hostile when disobeying, Hating when proven guilty, Raging when foolish.

            

Episode 096 - Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

Episode 096 - Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

We can feel stupid and wrong in our marriage. When we feel stupid and wrong in the marriage, we can draw conclusions about ourselves that are untrue in the eyes of God and react in ways that won’t remedy the pain, such as believing the lie (s) about ourselves or considering divorce. Our spouse will affect us emotionally but negative words cannot determine who God made us to be. We can begin to realize inner wisdom and the rightness about how we are living, even if a spouse refuses to acknowledge it. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

Episode 095 - What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Episode 095 - What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Are you in or have you come through a marital crisis? You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. There could have been any number of reasons for the crisis. Typically, though, a crisis falls under one or more of what Emerson refers to as the six A’s: adultery, abandonment, abuse, addiction, adversity, and apathy. Your situation may involve something outside of those, but join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic and email Emerson regarding how you are making it through or made it through the crisis at story@loveandrespect.com, including if you are listening to this months or years after it was posted. There is an attached document in the show notes available for download to guide your thinking and email. 

Episode 094 - What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Episode 094 - What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Some people live in fear that as they seek to apply the Love and Respect message their spouse will not respond in like manner, and then when that happens it confirms their fears. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

Episode 093 - What is so Unique About Emerson's Message to Mothers?

Episode 093 -  What is so Unique About Emerson's Message to Mothers?

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss Emerson's most recent book, Mother & Son: The Respect Effect, a book that Emerson sees as an encyclopedia of information that a mom can turn to during various moments of conflict with her son. In this episode three topics are discussed: The Message of Respect is unique compared to the message of love; The Outcome of Respect is unique according to mothers; and The Thirst for Respect is unique in boys compared to girls.

Episode 092 - Why Do Good Willed Wives Feel Frustrated?

Episode 092 - Why Do Good Willed Wives Feel Frustrated?

This week Emerson and Jonathan look at the behavior of a husband who bullies. There are many things that hurt and frustrate wives but there is a type of female who emails Emerson with this complaint: "I must stuff my feelings, keep my mouth shut, and do as he says." While some wives who write this type of email may be overreacting or misrepresenting the facts, despotic husbands exist who roar commands at their good willed wives. Their excessive and unloving decrees leave their wives feeling hurt, frustrated, confused, and worthless. Join Emerson and Jonathan as they discuss this topic.

Episode 091 - Why Do Good Willed Husbands Feel Frustrated?

Episode 091 - Why Do Good Willed Husbands Feel Frustrated?

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan look at a specific example of a husband and wife disagreeing on how they should approach their son, where the husband is reporting significant frustration. Taking the position that mothers and wives are never mean-spirited in such situations but that they truly care, Emerson discusses how her fears and care have unintended consequences toward the good willed husband.

Episode 090 - 19 Love and Respect Truisms and Principles to Live By

Episode 090 - 19 Love and Respect Truisms and Principles to Live By

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 19 simple, yet sometimes difficult to do, principles from the Love and Respect message. From monitoring your thoughts and feelings in interactions with your spouse, to what to say and do, practicing a few of these can improve your marriage.

Episode 089 - Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly-Sensitive to Disrespect?

Episode 089 - Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly-Sensitive to Disrespect?

Some husbands are hyper-sensitive to anything that strikes them as disrespectful. They overreact to their good willed wives who do not intend any such disrespect. Sadly, these men read disrespect into her every question, concern, or disagreement. Some husbands are just sensitive to undeserving disrespect. Though they humbly appeal to their wives to halt the rudeness toward them as men, husbands and fathers, these women claim the husbands are overly sensitive. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important issue.  See episode 088 to hear this topic as it pertains to wives.

Episode 088 - Are Wives HyperSensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to A Husband’s Unclear Comments?

Episode 088 - Are Wives HyperSensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to A Husband’s Unclear Comments?

Typically speaking, most husbands are assured of their wives love. Women are virtuous and excellent caregivers. Because of a wife’s loving and nurturing nature few men have an undercurrent of curiosity and insecurity about a wife’s love. Women love to love, and men know this.  However, with many wives there is an undercurrent of curiosity and insecurity that they possess in their souls that their husbands do not possess: “Does he really love me as much as I love him?” Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic. Husbands: If you use this information against your wife, claiming she is hyper-sensitive, and you say it in an unloving way, then you are in the fact the insensitive one.

Episode 087 - 3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 3

Episode 087 - 3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 3

In Part 3 of this series on dating Emerson looks back briefly at becoming a mature person and looking for a mature person but that for Christians a third component is needed, Doing God's Will As a Couple.  When we do not have a purpose beyond ourselves, we end up focusing only on ourselves. When we do not think of something bigger than ourselves, we will only think of ourselves. When nothing is more important than ourselves, than we alone are important. However, when we fight for something bigger than ourselves, we fight with each other less! That may not be the most noble of reasons to follow Christ but it certainly leads to marital satisfaction!

Episode 086 - 3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 2

Episode 086 - 3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 2

Emerson and Jonathan continue this three part series on what leads to a successful marriage. In Part 1 they looked at being a mature person.  In Part 2 they look at finding a mature person. This three part series is perfect for anyone who is dating or unmarried, but also for anyone who knows someone that is. Additionally, do you have children or plan on having children? This can help you in your conversations with them about marriage.