Episode 121 - 8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

Episode 121 - 8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 8 ways to prevent and get off the Crazy Cycle (see Episode 1 for a deeper explanation of the Crazy Cycle. Examples include what to do when you see the spirit of your spouse deflate, accepting some trouble as normal, and trusting in each other's goodwill. 

Episode 120 - The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part III

Episode 120 - The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part III

Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part III of this three part series. Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts?  Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared?  The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons.  In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons.  Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process. 

Episode 119 - The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part II

Episode 119 - The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part II

Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part II of this three part series. Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts?  Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared?  The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons.  In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons.  Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process. 

Episode 118 - The Four Seasons of Marriage-Part I

Episode 118 - The Four Seasons of Marriage-Part I

Why is marital paradise lost?  Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared?  The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons.  In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons.  Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process. Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part I of this three part series.

Episode 117 - Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Episode 117 - Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

**Jonathan's audio sounds poor and the issue was a bad cable.  Our apologies. 

Submission, mutual submission, headship, authority, responsibility, equality, and decision making. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss these very lite topics which stir up very few strong emotions in people :)

Episode 113 - Why Confess Our Unloving and Disrespectful Comments?

Episode 113 - Why Confess Our Unloving and Disrespectful Comments?

Why confess our unloving and disrespectful comments? If the roles were reversed, we'd expect another to confess to us. If another was mean to us, blamed us for their unkind reactions, made light of their unkindness since they meant no harm, and justified or denied their personal unresolved issues contributing to their hostilities and contempt toward us, we'd be up in arms. We'd be saying, "Wow, can't you at least humbly apologize for your part?" Join Emerson and Jonathan this week for this important topic.

Episode 112 - Why Do I Rebel Against Being Kind, Loving, and Respectful?

Episode 112 - Why Do I Rebel Against Being Kind, Loving, and Respectful?

Some of us declare, "It's my life. I make the rules. Keep your nose out of my affairs." At one level such independence is commendable and noble. But what occurs when you say to another, "If I wish to communicate what is untrue, unkind, unnecessary, and unclear to you, I will, and it's none of your business"? No one responds to a person like that. But what if certain rules and principles are sacred? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they talk about the kindness rule and how inviting it can be in marriage and life.

Episode 110 - 9 Episodes of Untrue Communications - Can You Relate - Part I

Episode 110 - 9 Episodes of Untrue Communications - Can You Relate - Part I

In this two part series, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of lying. This stems from Emerson's recent writing for a new book coming out in 2017. Throughout the 9 episodes or examples of untrue communication consider which ones you have observed and how often you think such things happen, whether with you or others.
 

Episode 108 - Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part II

Episode 108 - Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part II

In Part II this week Emerson and Jonathan continue the discussion about some husbands habitually looking at other women and having a double standard. Knowing this double standard exists, what should a husband and wife now do about his looking at other women? Emerson and Jonathan attempt to answer this question.

Episode 107 - Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part I

Episode 107 - Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part I

Do husbands have a double standard? Emerson and Jonathan invite you to join them this week and consider one that they have observed. Some wives hear from their husbands, “I can look at women because God designed me to look at the female figure, but you must not look at men.” While the subject of pornography is an important issue this episode is not about that. Instead, this episode looks at husbands who habitually look at women around them.

Episode 106 - Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part II

Episode 106 - Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part II

In part 2 Emerson answers the question, "Where do we go from here?" continuing the discussion of the double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Look at the next couple of episodes for this topic as it relates to men.

Episode 105 - Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

Episode 105 - Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan highlight a double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse our young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Stay tuned for Part II of this topic and then the same topic as it applies to men in the coming weeks. 

Episode 104 - What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak at Saddleback Church

Episode 104 - What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak at Saddleback Church

Part II - Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas:

1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

Episode 103 - What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Episode 103 - What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas (this is Part I of II):

1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships?

3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

Episode 102 - Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

Episode 102 - Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

“God wants you to be happy.” Have you heard this platitude before? Has it perhaps been spoken to you? Maybe you’ve even heard it said in the context of someone being encouraged to divorce their spouse, because “God wants you to be happy.” However, some platitudes, though quite memorable, are not based on biblical truth. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

Episode 101 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II

Episode 101 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part II

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week for part 2 of My Response Is My Responsibility. In discussing this challenging but freeing topic they will look at the fact that no one can make a person disobey God, owning one’s responses, letting others off the hook and confronting others.

Episode 100 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I

Episode 100 - My Response Is My Responsibility - Part I

We possess a God given right to rule our own inner responses. No one can make us hate them. No one can force us to have contempt for them. That’s a choice we make. Others cannot make that decision for us. What brings a person to this place of freedom? How does a person discover their right to rule their inner response? It begins with subscribing to this axiom: My Response is My Responsibility. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

Episode 099 - Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Episode 099 - Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Though God commands the husband to love and a wife to respect, a strange twist might take place. A wife puts on respect for one reason: to get her husband to be loving. A husband puts on love solely to get his wife to respect him. One pastor wrote Emerson and shared his concerns fearing this very thing: that husbands and wives will manipulate each other when applying love and respect based on Ephesians 5:33.  Join Emerson and Jonathan this weeks as they discuss this topic. 

Episode 096 - Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

Episode 096 - Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

We can feel stupid and wrong in our marriage. When we feel stupid and wrong in the marriage, we can draw conclusions about ourselves that are untrue in the eyes of God and react in ways that won’t remedy the pain, such as believing the lie (s) about ourselves or considering divorce. Our spouse will affect us emotionally but negative words cannot determine who God made us to be. We can begin to realize inner wisdom and the rightness about how we are living, even if a spouse refuses to acknowledge it. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

Episode 095 - What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Episode 095 - What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Are you in or have you come through a marital crisis? You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. There could have been any number of reasons for the crisis. Typically, though, a crisis falls under one or more of what Emerson refers to as the six A’s: adultery, abandonment, abuse, addiction, adversity, and apathy. Your situation may involve something outside of those, but join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic and email Emerson regarding how you are making it through or made it through the crisis at story@loveandrespect.com, including if you are listening to this months or years after it was posted. There is an attached document in the show notes available for download to guide your thinking and email.