Love and Respect Husband + Logo Mug
Are you a husband who just can’t reflect without your coffee but needs a new mug? This one is marked for you! Wives…this is a great respectful gift for your husband. They are finally here, mugs from Love and Respect! Whether you are engaging a Love and Respect product, like the 52 week devotional, and need your coffee to reflect; or you are a wife looking for a gift for your husband. Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, weddings, or just because, this mug will look great both in the cupboard and in his hand.
Love & Respect Coffee Cup
The Husband Mug
Timeless Ceramic Mugs
Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.
Spark Conversations on Marriage, Family, and Faith!
Immerse yourself in captivating conversations about marriage, family, and faith as you sip from our engaging ceramic diner mugs. These mugs are not just ordinary drinkware; they serve as excellent conversation starters among neighbors and friends. Elevate your small group experience by adding these fun and interactive items to the mix. Let the mugs ignite engaging discussions and create lasting memories as you bond over shared experiences and heartfelt conversations.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
Share what God is saying to your heart, not what you think He needs to say to your mate.
“Respect is a man’s deepest value. I have had numerous men tell me, ‘I would rather live with a wife who respected me but did not love me than live with a wife who loved me but did not respect me.’ These men are not saying that they are indifferent to love. They know they need love, but they need to feel respected even more than they need to feel loved.“
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
We are either going to give in the darkness or we are going to give into the darkness.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
Your husband knows you appreciate his desire to protect and provide when you praise his commitment to provide for you. You empathize when he reveals his male mindset about position, status, or rank at work.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
When we feel crippling discouragement by the sinful choices and outcomes of our kids, we must not let this permanently deter us from parenting God’s way.
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
If you are seeking positive change in your marriage, you will need to make a positive change in your attitude and actions.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
When sorting out how to slow down the Crazy Cycle, it helps to remember that men are commanded to love because they don’t love naturally, and on the other side, women are commanded to respect because they don’t respect naturally.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
It’s true that women have intuition and that men should listen to them. It’s also true that women have blind spots and need the insight of their husbands.
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
Can you begin to trust that God feels love for you even when you don’t feel that love?
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.